Second blog…..Life and death and 2013.

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2013 is an unusual year for me. As we hugged each other as the clock chimed 12 I realised that I was the only member of my birth family who would be alive in 2013. My lovely sister, Penny, who was nine and a half years younger than me died four years ago and will not be here for what would have been her 50th birthday next year. My father died some time ago (at least that’s what we all think, I have not seen him for over 30 years) and my Mum died in September. 

My Mum became ill last Summer and was in hospital for a month. She hated it! She was an independent woman who lived on her own and didn’t take to the hospital regime and even less to the food. For a person who did not eat gluten, sugar or meat there was very little that she could eat. My upbringing was complicated and my relationship with my mother turbulent, however, I had noticed a softening in her over the last twelve months which was new. I had been wondering if this might mean that she was entering the final stage of her life. Travelling down to see her in hospital and being given kind and generous hospitality by members of my wider family nevertheless brought historical events to the fore. I came home disturbed and distressed.

Over the years (I am 60 in 6 weeks!) I have noticed that when in need Life will supply the remedy. Three days later I was off to A Sacred Path retreat, a More to Life residential course, in beautiful Trigonos in Snowdonia. Surrounded by beauty I was able to wrestle with some essential questions again. Was I loved as a child? Was I wanted? Did Life intend for me to be really loved?  Having reached a satisfactory conclusion to these questions in the past wasn’t enough for this moment. My mind was flooded with doubts and my mindtalk – negative assumptions, accusations and demands – answered NO, NO, NO. With superb facilitation from MTL Senior Trainer Richard Perry I was able to see beyond the obvious and to know in my bones that YES! I was wanted by  Life and YES! my life has been surrounded by love, often found in unexpected places, and YES! my heart was big enough to hold my mother secure in her journey towards her death. And I did. More to Life and more to come!

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27 Jan, 3 & 10 Feb 2013 | Power of Connection course: Norwich

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Course:   Power of Connection (POC)

We will have a small group of about 8 people taking the course, and one or two team members, as well as myself to support each person well. We use group work, facilitated individual and pair work in a safe, and beautiful environment.

The course has a self preparation exercise and ongoing work to take the tools learnt into day to day relationships.

After the course there is an opportunity to get ongoing, free, group support and downloadable e-seminars. As all the mentor courses, there is a money back guarantee if you complete the course and do not find any benefit in the material.

If you would like to know more about The Power of Connection either ring me on 01379 851959 or 07813035763 or come to a free preview evening.

It would be great if you could let me know if you are coming to this evening, so that there are enough refreshments. It’s a great place to ask anything you want about the course, try out a bit of the work and talk to other interesting people. 

Register | brochure| Poster

Date:   3-day course:
27 Jan 2013
3 Feb & 10 Feb
Times:  
Sun: 10:00am – 5:30pm
Location:   The Arts Studio
Telegraph Lane East
Thorpe  Norwich 
NR1 4AN 
Mentor:   Zoë Grace Cozens
The Old Manor House
17 Old Market Place
Harleston, Norfolk IP20 9 BE
Phone:   01379 851959
mobile 07813 035763
Email:   moc.liamgnull@gorfpaeleoz
Website:   www.leapfrogtraining.co.uk
Preview Evening:    
Notes:   10% reduction if registration
received by 27th December. 10% reduction for people coming as part of a pair; friends, family, work colleagues or significant other.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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12 & 13 Jan 2013 | Power of Self Esteem course: Norwich | Preview evening Jan 3

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Course:   Power of Self Esteem (SEE)

We will have a small group of about 8 people taking the course, and one or two team members, as well as myself to support each person well. We use group work, a DVD, facilitated individual and pair work in a safe, and beautiful environment.

The course has a set of CDs for each participant with supplementary and explanatory material and is a mixture of experiential exercises and underlying psychology.

After the course there is an opportunity to get ongoing, free, group support and there is still a money back guarantee if your self esteem is not suitably enhanced after the course!

If you would like to know more about The Power of Self Esteem either ring me on 01379 851959 or 07813035763 or come to the free preview evening.

It would be great if you could let me know if you are coming to this evening, so that there are enough refreshments. It’s a great place to ask anything you want about the course, try out a bit of the work and talk to other interesting people. 

Registration form | Leaflet | Poster

Date:   2-day course:
12 Jan 2013
13 Jan
Times:   Sat: 9:00am – 6:30pm
Sun: 9:00am – 7:00pm
Location:   The Stage
52 St. Augustine’s Street
Norwich
NR3 3AD
Mentor:   Zoë Grace Cozens
The Old Manor House
17 Old Market Place
Harleston, Norfolk IP20 9 BE
Phone:   01379 851959
mobile 07813 035763
Email:   moc.liamgnull@gorfpaeleoz
Website:   www.leapfrogtraining.co.uk
Preview Evening:   Jan 3, 2013. 7.30 – 10.15              at The Stage, see above
Notes:   10% reduction if registration
received by 15th December.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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First new blog and it’s all about an old, old love*

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Last night was All Soul’s Night and we have a splatted egg on an upper story window as proof of some old customs that accompany it!

But souls, your soul and my soul, are very important to me all year round. That sounds very portentous (exciting; foreboding!) so I have just consulted some dictionary definitions regarding ‘souls’. Although there are variants, this is the first part of a number of definitions  “The animating and vital principle in humans, credited with the faculties of thought, action, and emotion and often conceived as an immaterial entity.”

So, on All Soul’s Night I was at the Walnut Tree Shades in Norwich, along with many other excellent musicians from the Norfolk Blues Society singing some old blues from deep in my soul, using my faculties of thought, action, emotion, and voice, to express my pleasure at being alive. At the bar a lovely woman asked me why I was so happy and could she have some of it! I said that it was because I used and taught self esteem enhancement work, which I love, and which helps me to love myself and my life….and it is true!

When I got home I was thinking about how sad she had been that night and how sad, and desperate I was feeling when I took my Power of Self Esteem course in 1989. I  doubted that my life could get any better, and many painful experiences from childhood seemed to reappear most nights in dreadful dreams and flashbacks. I was in an oppressive, violent marriage and only my children kept me from doing something irreversible to end the anguish. Whew! It was truly grim and only such a hopeless situation would have persuaded me to spend any money on myself and take the first Power of Self Esteem course run by my mentors Jo and Rod Fisher. 

Well, I found it extraordinary! Week after week it was as if a bright light illuminated why I was feeling the way I was and what the thought patterns were that were causing those feelings, and, incredibly, how to change those feelings. This course has a money back guarantee (a comforting thought) but it worked, and in a durable and lasting way! One of the things that I understood quickly was that many rather extreme things from my childhood were coming up and tapping me on the shoulder so that I could detoxify them. This required disempowering the beliefs which had accompanied them and which were causing me such misery years later. I am still amazed by the fact that we can undo the effects of trauma and not only survive but thrive and flourish. Hurrah!

This sounds a bit like that old advert that continued into “I was so impressed I bought the company”, which I didn’t. I became a practitioner and teacher of this work. The Power of Self Esteem is part of the More to Life educational programme and I don’t teach it over 6 weekly sessions but over a weekend. Every time I teach it I get excited about it, because I get to see other people taking back their lives from the past so that they can create something new for themselves and the people who share their lives. Lordy, I am sounding evangelical but it is impossible for me not to want to sing out the good news when I have seen it work over and over again over 20 years!

My next course is on November 17th and 18th at Inner Space, Norwich at Maude Gray Court, Saint Benedicts Street, Norwich, NR2 4PA. It will run from 9.00am to 6.30pm on Saturday and 9.00am to 7.00pm on Sunday. We will have a small group of about 8 people taking the course, and one or two team members, as well as myself to support each person well. We use group work, a DVD, facilitated individual and pair work in a safe, and beautiful environment. The course has a set of CDs for each participant with supplementary and explanatory material and is a mixture of experiential exercises and underlying psychology. After the course there is an opportunity to get ongoing, free, group support and there is still a money back guarantee if your self esteem is not suitably enhanced after the course!

 If you would like to know more about The Power of Self Esteem either ring me on 01379 851959 or 07813035763 or come to the free preview evening next Wednesday evening, 7th November, from 7.30pm ~ 10.15pm at The Old Manor House, 17 Old Market Place, Harleston, IP20 9BE. It would be great if you could let me know if you are coming to this evening, so that there are enough refreshments. It’s a great place to ask anything you want about the course, try out a bit of the work and talk to other interesting people.

So I love myself, I love sharing this work and I love waiting to see what news things will be created in the near and far future. 

 

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